When a friend says something interesting to me, I usually don’t have a reaction until much later. When someone asks me a deep question, I say, “Hmm. I don’t know.” The next day, I have an answer. I’m a disappointing person to try to debate or attack. I just have nothing to say in the moment, except maybe, “Good point.” Then a few days later, after thinking about it a lot, I have a response. This probably makes me look stupid in the moment, but I don’t mind. I’m not trying to win any debates.
古人有个说法”博学之，审问之，慎思之，明辨之，笃行之“。想要博学多才，就要对学问详细地询问，彻底搞懂，要慎重地思考，明白地辨别，切实地力行。
我以前把“慎思、慎言、笃行”作为座右铭，但一直没有做好。而且近些年来，反而感觉更容易冲动。对于一些认知不相符的言语和行为，总是会有戾气，失去真正的思考。
Someone asks you a question. You don’t need to answer. You can say, “I don’t know,” and take your time to answer after thinking. Things happen. Someone expects you to respond. But you can say, “We’ll see.”